Pathways to Friendship
What is Pathways to Friendship?
Pathways to Friendship, is a collaborative initiative on social inclusion between the Department of Developmental Services (DDS) and The Arc of Massachusetts.
Our goal is to address the isolation and loneliness of people with disabilities through:
-Exploring the benefits of relationships between people with and without disabilities
-Providing information and resources to help individuals, families and community organizations engage in and sustain those relationships
What we offer:
-Trainings: Co-presented by people with disabilities
-Short Term Consultation
-Resource Sharing and Networking
Contact us: friendship@arcmass.org
There is nothing more human than our need for connection and relationships. Simply put, friendships make us happier, healthier and safer!
Maslow’s Hierachy of Needs
While all good relationships are part of a good life, far too often people with disabilities are limited to relationships with family members, support staff and others living with disability. This means both people with and without disabilities miss out on all the richness and benefits that come from befriending each other. We need to Widen the Circle of our Relationships!
Upcoming Events
Join us at one of these upcoming events to increase your knowledge about Friendship and Inclusion!
-1/22, 11am-12pm: NQCA Friendship Matchmaking Virtual Forum
-2/6, 10-11:30am: Metro/Northeast Inclusion Network Virtual Meeting
-2/12, 10-11:30am: Southeast Inclusion Network Virtual Meeting
-3/13, 10-11:30am: Central/West Inclusion Network Virtual Meeting
Who is in Your Social Network?
Source: Jack Pealer, 2011
For many people with disabilities, their social network looks like the chart above. This can be a recipe for loneliness, and might make someone think, “is there anyone in my life that is here because they want to be with me, and not just because they are assigned to me?”
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Join Our Regional Inclusion Networks
These virtual meetings focus on furthering inclusion within organizations and communities. They are a forum to share best practices, to network, and to learn from short presentations. All are welcome to join! There are currently three Regional Inclusion Network Meetings.
Southeast
Held the 2nd Wednesday of every other month from 10:00 – 11:30AM.
Meeting ID: 871 9085 2689
Passcode: 064331
2025 Dates:
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2/12/25
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4/9/25
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6/11/25
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8/13/25
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10/8/25
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12/10/25
Contact: Dotty Foley at dfoley@arcmass.org
Metro/Northeast
Held the 1st Thursday of every other month from 10:00 – 11:30AM.
Meeting ID: 811 4911 0266
Passcode: 908968
2025 Dates:
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- 2/6/25
- 4/3/25
- 6/5/25
- 8/7/25
- 10/9/25 -2nd Thursday of the month due to Yom Kippur
- 12/4/25
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Contacts:
Phoebe Goodman at goodman@arcmass.org
Rachel Hayward at rhayward@arcmass.org
Central/West
Held the 2nd Thursday of every other month from 10:00 – 11:30AM.
Meeting ID: 863 9773 7679
Passcode: 626290
2025 Dates:
- 1/9/25
- 3/13/25
- 5/8/25
- 7/10/25
- 9/11/25
- 11/13/25
Contacts:
Rachel Hayward at rhayward@arcmass.org
Dotty Foley at dfoley@arcmass.org
Join the Friendship Matchmaking Forum
Learn more about supporting one-to-one friendships between people with and without disabilities at the Friendship Matchmaking Forum. These virtual meetings take place the 4th Wednesday of every other month at 11am at this recurring Zoom link: Friendship Matchmaking Forum
2025 dates: 1/22, 3/26, 5/28, 9/24,*11/19 (date moved due to Thanksgiving)
Friendship Stories
Warren and Velvet: Like Peanut Butter and Jelly
Warren and Velvet have been friends for over 20 years. They have weathered life’s ups and downs together and have developed a bond deeper than friendship…they are family.
Chris and Tyler: Cheers to Friendship
With their outgoing personalities and shared love of afterschool activities, Chris and Tyler became friends in high school. Almost 15 years have passed, and these two are still best friends. They are always ready to talk to and support each other, and to enjoy each other’s company along with a good beer.
Sam and Jerry: The Thrill of Friendship
Sam was 8 and Jerry was 14 when they paired up at Loon Mountain. They ended up skiing together for the rest of the day, and for the next twenty years!
Norma Y Phoebe: De Personal Y Cliente A Amigas
Norma y Phoebe comenzaron como personal y cliente, pero con el paso de los años, su relación se convirtió en una hermosa amistad.
Norma and Phoebe: From Staff and Client to Friends
Norma and Phoebe started off as staff and client, but over the years their relationship grew into a beautiful friendship!
Jordan and Laura: Actors and Friends
Jordan and Laura’s bond stemmed from a mutual love of acting. It has now grown into a beautiful 12-year friendship.
Janine and Allison: Best Buddies to Great Friends
Janine and Allison were matched through a Best Buddies program at Stonehill College. Their relationship far outlasted their college years, and they have grown from buddies into wonderful friends!
Bob and Erik: Intergenerational Friends
Bob and Erik’s connection grew out of walking and talking at Achilles International events. Their relationship spotlights the importance of intergenerational friendships.
Uly and Rachel: Friends in Advocacy and in Life
Uly and Rachel started as co-workers, but they bonded over their passion for advocacy work and ice cream, and became good friends!
Daniel and Korynn: Best Friends Forever
High schoolers Daniel and Korynn share a love of music, sports, and selfies. Their friendship endured throughout the pandemic and remains strong as they plan for life after graduation.
Mark and Jack: From Fans to Friends
Mark and Jack’s friendship started from a mutual love of the Red Sox and Fenway Park and has grown from there!
Lilly and Sydney: Unified in Friendship
Lilly and Sydney originally became friends in preschool but then went off to different schools. They reconnected when both joined Unified Sports teams at the start of 9th grade.
Austin and Alex: Charting a Course to Friendship
Austin and Alex met twenty years ago as teens at a sailing program at Piers Park Sailing Center. After losing touch, they recently reconnected and have forged an even closer bond as adults.
Jonathan and Joy: Friends Reconnected
Jonathan and Joy have known each other since the third grade. When they lost touch, Jonathan did not give up on their friendship!
Pathways Video Library
View friendship stories, trainings, webinars, and more on demand.
The Pathways to Friendship team and partners have chronicled incredible stories of inclusion and modeled examples for you to learn from. All of this and more can be found in the on demand Video Library.
Get Connected
Join the Pathways to Friendship Facebook Group
Join the community to collaborate with others!
Do you have questions or want more information on Pathways to Friendship?
Contact us at friendship@arcmass.org.
Additional Resources
- Friendship & Matchmaking
- Trainers Corner
- Presentations
- Building Connections
- Person-Centered Planning
- Research and Evaluation
- Recursos en Español
Friendship
- How to Facilitate Friendships for Kids (0-13) (webpage)
- How to Facilitate Friendships for Transition Aged Youth (14-22) (webpage)
- How to Facilitate Friendships for Adults (22+) (webpage)
- Friends: Connecting People with Disabilities and Community Members (pdf)
- The Integrated Friendship Star (pdf)
- Friendships and the IEP (pdf)
- Friendships and the ISP (pdf)
- Strategies For Direct Support (pdf)
- Family Support: A Lightbulb Moment (video)
- Facilitating Friendship: A Parent’s Story (video)
- Teaching Friendship: How Schools Can Support Friendship Between Students With and Without Disabilities (video)
- Happy Campers: Supporting Inclusive Friendships at Camps, Clubs & Other Recreational Organizations (video)
- Imagine (David Pitonyak) (website)
Friendship Matchmaking
Trainers Corner: Free, Downloadable Powerpoints
Presentations
- Supporting People with Complex Medical Needs Towards Meaningful Friendships in Their Communities by Linda Surprenant (video)
- Lessons from Citizen Advocacy: A Learning Journey (video)
- Person-Centered Design Sessions (video)_
- The 2022 Celebrating Connections Conference Playlist (video)
- Relationships at Work: Creating Connections to Ensure Success (video)
- Diversity, Disability and Friendship (iCan Fly volunteer training)(video)
- 2024 Community Bridging Grant Symposium (full video)
Community Connection
Inclusion
Recursos en Español
- Norma Y Phoebe: De Personal Y Cliente A Amigas (video)
- ¿Qué es la Inclusión? (y qué no lo es) (pdf)
- ¿Por qué son importantes los amigos? (pdf)
- Estrategias generales para apoyar las amistades entre personas con y sin discapacidades (pdf)
- Estrategias para que los Profesionales de Apoyo Directo promuevan la amistad (pdf)
- Desarrollo Laboral Y Relaciones (pdf)
- Hacer amigos en la escuela: Estrategias para todos (pdf)
- Cómo Utilizar Su IEP para Promover Conexiones y Amistades (pdf)
- Cómo Usar el Plan de Apoyo Individual (ISP, por sus siglapara Promover Conexiones y Amistades (pdf)
- Una nota importante sobre la especialización: Una Parábola (pdf)
- Análisis de Actividad (pdf)
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